Coaching is often referred to as a journey and although we might think we know the direction we will travel, sometimes we can stop for a coffee a little off the planned route or pop back to an interesting spot knowing that we will get back on track after pausing or visiting these worthwhile distractions. Coaching is being in the moment to allow us to explore our present during our coaching journey and focus on the future and change required.

Coaching requires skilful dialogue with open questions to understand what the client has already discussed, may wish to change and to expand on details that might be relevant or important to bring options or actions forward.  Skilful dialogue is not a loose term as it requires one to ensure they are comfortable with their questioning style to ensure it enables the coach to paraphrase, ask incisive, informed questions while also demonstrating continuous and effectiveness listening. Paramount to a successful coaching relationship is listening throughout the journey.

Coaching provides the space for the client to develop their own understanding of why they are here today and possibly realising personal insights. The relationship is fundamental to a successful coaching contract.

Coaches develop their own style from different models through practice and guidance over time, but all coaches recognise that learning never ends and styles continue to refine and develop over the years and not overnight. Whitmore advises that coaches need to be constantly looking for updated skills and knowledge. He believes it is about responding and being appropriate to the client needs and circumstances which could involve questions, challenge and even telling the client things.

Coaching is doing whatever is appropriate in the moment of your interaction with another human being (Kauffman and Bachkirova, 2008).